The seventeenth day of July of this year marked the day I bid my teenage years goodbye. I know, I cannot believe it either that I am finally a twenty year old. Although, deep down I do feel like a 16-year-old.


Turning twenty has come with its fair share of nostalgia, which has prompted me to reflect on the past. Sure, there is plenty to miss about being a teenager. Like the volatility, intensity, and innocence of it all. But in the same breath, there is plenty I could do without. Like the profuse mistakes I made along the way. But this is not to say I would have it any other way. As a matter of fact, I would do it all over again. Because were it not for the three following mistakes, I would not be walking into my twenties with the wisdom I currently possess. 

Photo Credit: Halima Abokor Sheikh 


So, without further ado, here are the three mistakes I made in teens that I will avoid making in my twenties: 

Trying To Conform 


To be quite fair, I suspect that we have all tried to fit in our teens, one way or another.  In retrospect, it sounds inevitable. After all, this is the time where one is coming to learn who he/she/they are, and how the world perceives him/her/them. Personally, it came as a shock when I came off age. Because I was  robbed of my childhood oblivion. And as a consequence, I began to notice what set me apart from the rest of the crowd including my physical features, quirks etc. And instead of embracing them, I was eager to do anything in my power to alter them in order to fit in.



Chasing Pavements 

Not literally. But as Adele can be heard contemplating in her hit song of the same name, whether to continue pursue something that could prove to be completely hopeless or purposeless. Or to just give it all up. This is something that definitely rings true to who I am, innately. I am so slow to change; to the point I do not know when to walk away from anything that no longer serves me. Be it my personal relationships, or any career endeavours. Nevertheless, I am learning to loosen my grip. I am gradually learning to let go. 


Not Holding Myself Accountable For My Actions 

There was a time in my early teens where I was extremely toxic. And instead of acknowledging my wrongdoings and trying to make up for my hurtful behaviour; I would make a habit of placing the blame onto others by victimizing myself.  It is not until I began to love myself that I began to grasp the significance of owning up to my actions especially when other parties are involved. Now, when I do find myself in any situation where I am in the wrong, I do not hold back with admitting and apologizing for all my wrongs. 

ARE THERE ANY MISTAKES YOU MADE IN YOUR TEENS THAT YOU WISH TO STEER CLEAR OF IN YOUR TWENTIES? IF SO, PLEASE LEAVE A COMMENT BELOW.